Why should you know your “Why”

Being productive for accumulating growth or material things?
Similarly to jumping into the Ferrari, it becomes unnecessary when you drive multiple times around the same neighborhood, after a point it becomes ridiculous.

Life, at times, feels like chasing from one goal (‘X’) to another (‘Y’). Once you reach ‘Y,’ it becomes the new ‘X,’ with another ‘Y’ on the horizon. But when you reflect on the journey, it’s not about the possessions collected;
it’s about the immeasurable growth experienced.

Finding a meaningful goal is a journey in itself. It took me years, while some seem to have it all figured out from day one.

The story of happiness
The ultimate happiness comes from improving your relationship with yourself and facing challenges aligned with worthy goals. Deep within each of us, there’s a divine force driving us towards expansion and fuller self- expression. And that’s the real adventure. You were created with a unique purpose

My friend Frederic is just 23 years old, and he’s already living the dream – financially independent and scaling up to hit multimillionaire goals by the time he’s 25. It sounds like a dream for many but knowing him I can tell you that it is not all glamor.

In our talks, he admits that despite his financial blessings, there’s something missing – a clear purpose. Money, once the key to fulfillment, suddenly loses its magic. Setting goals to receive more cash and laying all day at the beach with a drink at hand was once desired. That was only temporary, that “blessing” now just leaves him feeling more lost and empty like he’s not really on the path to his ultimate goal. It’s a puzzle many of us can relate to – chasing success without knowing exactly why.

• Then there’s this social media trend where you get bombarded with ads where people claim and stand by “rich fast methods”. Methods that range from urging guys, especially the younger ones, to go “monk mode.” Disappear for six months, reappear as a whole new, successful version of yourself. Sounds amazing, doesn’t it?
  For a moment, the thrill might be there, telling yourself,
  “What if reaching this level is just the beginning?” It’s like a dopamine hijack. But if you ride that wave for too long, reality hits – maybe you’re not as satisfied with life as you thought. You end up with a thick wallet but isolated.

For me, that’s not the real deal. Distancing yourself could work in some scenarios, but not always. Life demands sacrifices, but if you’re sacrificing for an unworthy goal, it’s a lose-lose situation. Going blindly after something might still leave you unsatisfied in the end. Also leading to burnout and an unsatisfied life.

• According to the income relative hypothesis, it will never be enough when it comes to money, even if you got a billion dollars you would most likely continue for the multibillion dollars. Just study the top billionaires today, do they stop working? We have Jeff Bezos, Bill Gates, Elon Musk and the list goes on. Does the opposite hold true that you would be happy without money? No!

How to satisfy your emptiness

You will never satisfy your emptiness with money, but you will fullfill your life by devoting your time and energy to your innermost values.
By finding out your why, you’re able to fully dedicate yourself to your mission in life, hence overcoming the negative side of overachievers. Running after the carrot will never fulfill you but working for your mission will.

Most people think that they want something but in reality, it is not in accordance with their innermost values, ask your coworkers their dream salary, and they will come up with an arbitrary number without really thinking about it.
Most haven’t done the math of what their ideal life costs, the ideal life where you get the possibility to do the things that you intrinsically value.
Instead what you do is say a random number that you most likely think is reasonable for a profession, for instance if you earn 5000 USD as a consultant then you might say 6000 USD.

• Exploring the significance of your why reveals its manifold benefits in root cause analysis.
  This method proves especially valuable when you finnd yourself uncertain about why certain actions are taken or when your perceived understanding turns out to be incomplete.
  Consider the case of a woman aspiring to become a faster typist, believing that increased speed would lead to higher earnings.
  However, upon engaging in the why exercise, she discovers a deeper truth: she desired faster typing to earn more, facilitating increased spending on herself and her family.
  Delving further, she recognized a profound reason to be close to her family, allowing for more quality time with them.
  This realization contributed to a shift in her perspective, as she understood that typing wasn’t the most effective path to increased income.
  Similar to this woman’s experience, we too might find ourselves engaged in activities because they seem the most logical thing to do.

Make sure it is yours and not others

In today’s world, most folks pay more attention to others than to themselves.
What makes your life truly satisfying? How would you love to spend your days? What’s genuinely meaningful to you? These are the questions we rarely ask ourselves and less likely answers. Instead, we’re caught up comparing ourselves to others, navigating routes that lead us nowhere. Speed doesn’t matter if it’s in the wrong direction.
That is why I don’t recommend productivity if you don’t know where you want to go, because it would not take you anywhere.

• You see, the search for purpose and meaning is an intrinsic part of our human experience. There’s an innate power within us to unravel our uniqueness and significance on this planet. It’s fascinating to think that each of us was created with a unique purpose, a divine mission to contribute significantly to the world. Take a moment to re-read that last sentence and let it resonate within you.
• True fulfillment doesn’t come from amassing wealth to live a life on a beautiful beach with a drink in hand. While it might seem enjoyable at first, repeating that experience will eventually diminish your baseline dopamine levels, leaving you endlessly searching for meeting moments of contentment –
  often plunging you into a repetitive cycle of chasing short-lived pleasures.

In this blog, we’ll explore various frameworks that can help us understand our purpose and draw closer to it, ultimately leading to a sense of fulfillment.
Imagine finding the right staircase in your life – the one that truly aligns with your purpose. Climbing the correct staircase matters, not just any staircase. It’s not about being ahead of others or at a particular level; it’s about being on the right path.

One common mistake people make is comparing themselves to others, similar to comparing different staircases that lead to entirely unrelated destinations.
The truth is that every individual possesses a unique genius within them.
Just like a fish climbing a tree would appear out of place, pursuing a path that doesn’t align with your innate strengths can leave you feeling disconnected.

The key lies in doing what you love, in living a life that resonates with your values, not someone else’s.
I once found myself conforming to what I thought was expected of me.
I followed routines and habits, but they weren’t authentic to my true self.
I was pushing the wrong buttons, ones that didn’t illuminate my path but instead provided feedback after deep introspection and heightened awareness.

Remember, fulfillment comes from honoring your true self, your unique journey, and embracing the path that aligns with your passions.
It’s about climbing the right staircase, not just any staircase, and finding joy in every step.